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Bettgeflüster: Pillow Talk auf Deutsch

Bettgeflüster: Pillow Talk auf Deutsch

Written by Mercedes von Kulessa Illustrated by Rory Midhani


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Customer Reviews

Based on 3 reviews
Nadine Lolu

The zine "Bettgeflüster" impresses with clear explanations and great illustrations that convey complex topics in an understandable and appealing way. You can learn a lot from it and gain new perspectives, which makes it a recommended read.
Spice up your life - in german!

Annalena Baasch
Offen ist sexy

DE: Egal ob Muttersprachler*in oder nicht, dieses Buch liefert tolle Ideen, wie man im Bett (und außerhalb) besser kommunizieren kann. Dabei geht es nicht nur um Begriffe für Handlungen und Körperteile, sondern auch darum, wie man Wertschätzungen ausdrückt und Grenzen aufzeigt. Also um etwas, worüber sich jede*r mal Gedanken machen sollte. Dass das auch schön sein kann, zeigt dieses kleine Buch ganz wunderbar. Werde ich definitiv weiter empfehlen!

ENG: Whether you are a german native speaker or not, this book provides great ideas and inspiration on how to communicate better in bed (and out of it). It's not just about terms for specific acts and body parts, but also about how to show appreciation and express/confirm boundaries. Basically, a topic everyone should spend some time thinking about. This little book shows that doing so doesn't have to be a core, but can indeed be beautiful and people may have fun while doing so. I will definitely further recommend the book!

Cute, unique, inclusive

ENG: This cute little zine is a wonderful inspiration for non-native speakers to make use of the german language when it comes to pillow talk – with an emphasis on sex-positivity and inclusion. Native speakers could find this little gem interesting too in case they need little nudge thinking and talking about what turns them on and what doesn't.
The illustrations are really charming and celebrate human sexuality and different gender expressions.

DEU: Dieses niedliche kleine Heft ist eine wunderbare Inspiration für Nicht-Muttersprachler, Deutsch beim Bettgeflüster auszuprobieren - mit dem Schwerpunkt auf Sex-Positivity und Inklusion. Auch für Muttersprachler könnte dieses kleine Juwel interessant sein, falls sie einen kleinen Anstoß brauchen, um darüber nachzudenken (und zu sprechen), was sie anmacht und was nicht.
Die Illustrationen sind superniedlich und feiern menschliche Sexualität und die unterschiedlichen Ausdrücke von Gender und Identität.

You're in bed with your cutie, it's getting hot and sexy, and you're speaking... only in English?

Mercedes (she/dey) from QUEER_gesprochen?! teaches courses and develops materials for teaching gender-neutral and diversity-sensitive German. She knew German could be sexy, but couldn't find any good guides - so dey decided to write one! This workbook gives you helpful suggestions, examples and a few exercises to improve your pillow talk in German.

An open page of the workbook Bettgeflüster, illustrated by Rory Midhani. On the left page are gay grandpas talking in bed, and on the right is someone sexting on a phone.

Front view of the middle page from Bettgeflüster published by Polar Embassy. It shows cute characters coming out the shower and texting, along with suggestions for texting. On the other side is a character looking in the mirror.

Close up of page from Bettgeflüster Workbook showing cute queer characters snuggling, inclusive pride flags, and a spectrum of gender pairing symbols.

  • How many pages?

    21 pages

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  • Printed in Berlin on recycled paper

    Support your local printer, baby!

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The workbooks are printed on 100% recycled, FSC-certified paper.

Pollution footprint

We aim for the smallest possible footprint from our products' production, transport, and consumption. 

Producing each workbook emits about XX kg CO2e, which our supplier offsets. We share more about this below.


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We fulfill orders within three business days.

We ship to Germany, Austria, Switzerland, France, the Netherlands, Belgium, and Luxembourg. Orders in the EU over €50 ship free.


A5 (148 x 210mm)

Good to know

The workbook contains illustrated sexual content and is for ages 16+.

One download per order. Copying, distributing, printing, or otherwise sharing is not permitted.

Our Footprint

About 0,05kg CO2e is emitted from producing each workbook.

Our supplier offsets these emissions via ocean protection and reforestation projects via ClimatePartner.

Porträt von Mercedes von Kulessa, vor einem unscharfen Hintergrund im Freien. Sie hat helle Haut und rosa Haare und lächelt.

About the Author

When Mercedes (dey/she) isn't writing guidebooks for sexual conversations, dey teach German as a foreign language.

As the founder of QUEER_gesprochen?!, she thinks a lot about how to formulate language in a gender-neutral and diversity-sensitive way. Dey offer individual and group courses for language learners as well as teachers, and has also developed teaching materials on the topic of gender-neutral language. The current offer can be found at

About the Illustrator

Painter & illustrator Rory Midhani makes artwork about queer and trans people living their lives and loving it. He creates mixed-media pieces, paintings, and drawings all which playfully celebrate the lives of the queer community.  ‬

He also designed our Playing Cards and a Puzzle for us.